Love Lesson

Love Lesson

By Kari McMurray



With Valentine's Day coming up, what is more appropriate to write about than love?

I love love!  I love to talk about love, read about love and witness love.  More than that, I love to experience love and I must confess that I have been extremely blessed in the love department.  I have been in love with the same wonderful man for fourteen years.  I felt it when I fell in love with him and on our wedding day I thought I could not possibly love him more.  Yet, every day that passes I somehow wake up loving him even more than I did the day before.  There have been deployments that make my heart so overwhelmed with longing that I can feel it in my aching bones. Recent tragedies in the aviation community hit so close to home that in fear I have asked myself, " What if I didn't have this person to share my life with?"


We all have "what ifs", don't we?  The question "what if" can spark a child's imagination and annoy a parent to no end.  It can make us wonder how our lives could have been different with any minor change or decision.  What if the Broncos win the Super Bowl and Peyton gets another ring?  While I could not possibly care any less about football, I care quite a lot about a specific "what if" that one of my clients asked this week.

I will briefly go back to love to tie this altogether.  If you have been so lucky as to fall in love... when you found that person did you ever stop to wonder if he/she was really the right one?  Seeing my best friend/boyfriend of six years down on his knee to propose to me, the last thing on my mind was that maybe I should wait and see what else comes along!  When you know someone is THE one, you stop looking!  No need to think about it overnight or consult your lifelines!  When the opportunity for love and happiness arise, you jump in headfirst.  If you don't, you may live to regret it.


I have clients that are moving back to Hampton Roads and are looking for their forever home. I know that is a foreign concept to a lot of us military people, but it does exist! (My forever home is a compilation of the many fabulous ideas found on!)  Well, my clients saw a house that spoke to them.  They knew they loved it the moment they saw it. They immediately pictured themselves in the home.  When a client finds the house they want to call "home" it is my job to make it happen for them.  So, naturally, when they expressed their love-at-first-sight for this home, I started talking about what we needed to do to get it.  Then, they put on the brakes "No, not yet, Kari.  We know we want it but I think we need to sleep on it."  Wow!  What a risk!  Before my workday had even begun the next morning, I had instructions in my email from them to proceed with an offer on this house.  I contacted the listing agent and was told that the home went under contract the evening before.  What a hard thing to have to tell my clients!  The "what if" in this situation is completely irrelevant.


Thankfully, "what if’s?" usually teach us something.  The love lesson learned here is that when you find a home that you love and can see yourself in, do not wait!  Waiting could cost you an unwelcome "what if?” . Yes, there will always be other houses.  Sometimes you may love the one that comes next even more than you loved the first.  But... what if you don't?  Listen to your head, follow your heart and trust your REALTOR to not lead you astray! 

"Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss." Eric Roth from the screenplay The Curious Case of Benjamin Button


Kari McMurray
Military Relocation Specialist  
Cell: 757-470-6895   Office: 757-346-9077




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